What Labels are YOU Showing Your Community – Part 2 in a Series

Hello, The last time we were together I shared the above image.  It illustrates YOU as the center of your community.  Now, would be a good time to review the first article in this series,  You – Your Community – Your Job – Your Compensation, but it certainly is not a requirement to understand the information and exercise I will share in this article.

If you did the exercise from the previous article, you have a piece of paper that looks something like the illustration above.  If you didn’t do the exercise, guess what, it doesn’t matter.  Don’t you love it when you can jump right in without an extensive review.  Okay, if you did do the exercise from the first article in this series, you are looking at YOU with your community surrounding you.  What do others, in your community,  see in you?  What labels have you put on yourself?

This is very important, because the labels you place on yourselves will determine your job in the community and how well you will do your JOB, good or bad.  How do you know what labels you are placing on yourself?

#1 – Listening to what you are saying about yourself in your head and #2 – Writing them down.

You’re going to need another piece of paper (colorful construction paper or page in your journal) and a writing instrument (crayons & markers are welcome) for this exercise I like to call Cancel – Cancel.

First, draw lines to make three category columns. At the top of each column label them, 1)  My BAGGAGE, 2) My FUEL and 3) Go to My Dreams. You will need to carry this piece of paper with you for a week.

When you place a label on yourself, write it down in either the Baggage (negative self talk) or the Fuel (positive congratulatory self talk) category.

To complete the, Go to your Dreams category, you will need to tap into the realm of limitless possibilities. Can you go there? Think about what you wanted to be when your were young. New skills you would learn if money and time were not a factor. Think about people you admire. What do they do that resonates with who you are? I’m not saying write down, “I want to be just like Martha Stewart.”  You can’t BE Martha Stewart.  What I am saying is, if you have a burning desire to create beautiful things with paper and glitter, write down, something like, “Paper Glitter Goddess.”

At the end of the week reflect upon your list. Only you really know what it means, but just being aware of the labels will help you make sense of them.

Here’s the first, Cancel – Cancel,  list I made. The Baggage column took an early lead, but the Fuel and Go to your Dreams columns made a huge comeback later in the week.  I read the Baggage labels and canceled them out with a counter acting Fuel label.  Here’s my partial list.

Late Night Person cancels out Non Morning Person
Distracted Dreamer cancels out Disorganized
Clothes Folder Yay! cancels out Poor Housekeeper
Good Mother cancels out Bad Mother
Prayerful cancels out Fearful
Doer cancels out Fearful
Prayerful cancels out Angry
Capable cancels out Checkbook Balancing Challenged

Here are some leftovers from the first two columns:

Happy #2
Good Friend
In Pain

Go to my Dreams List:

Super Star (in that Molly Shannon kind of way), highly sought out key note speaker, author, columnist, dancer, radio show host.

All of the labels in the Fuel column will help me Go to my Dreams. Doer, Capable, Prayerful and Expressive match up very nicely with these new labels.

Which Baggage Labels did not have a counter label?

In Pain and Tired. This is where I am out of balance. I need more sleep, exercise and a better diet. My chronic back pain would probably get better with the sleep, exercise and weight loss. Stretching and yoga would also help my pain. If you find several more Baggage labels you need to give yourself permission to dig up all the incredible things about yourself.  Go ahead and write them down now; smart, funny, kind, happy…….

This exercise reminds us that the answers are not in the answers, they are in the exploring, reflecting and doing part of life. This exercise also applies to our awareness of putting labels on others. Let’s not limit others with the labels we place on them.  Now stick your fingers under those arm pits, pull them out and sniff. Lunge down on one knee and PROCLAIM it! YOU ARE A SUPER STAR!  And you have a wonderful job in your community.  Can’t wait to talk more about it next time.

On a side note: As part of this healing, joyous community would you please consider sharing your thoughts in the comments.  I know there are wise insightful readers, so join Lady J in the comment section.


  1. ladyjtalks says

    Love this part of the exercises. For many of us who started therapy/self help/discovery more years ago then most of us would like to tell (lol) back before most had names/labels on them, we were taught/told to make list like this. Take all the negative talk out of our heads and replace them with positive stuff. Then when we got to the point where all we said was positive stuff some of us ran head long into therapist/counselors who thought we were a bit narcissist with our inflated egos because they couldn't teach us anything new. They told us we didn't need their help. So what we did was form groups/communities of woman (and men had their own) who thought like us and we helped each other through the main stream of trials that most of us go through throughout a life time.

    As with our Army of Angels, we now include both species and realize that we all share common goals and no matter how many times you do a simple exercise as this one is you can always redo this list. When feelings (any kind) come up that make us feel different for the moment it helps to have even one person you can write to and share what you are thinking with. As many have learned these last months with “even” Me…life and situations around you can over whelm you and making a list such as this helps to put things back into perspective.

    Just remember that just because you are not actively doing something doesn't make it less real for you. We are all Super Stars like Kim for being part of such a wonderful movement here with the Survival Manual and the Angela Shelton Foundation

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