Silent Spirits Introduction

 

Silent Spirits is working to change the landscape around sex abuse in America. Our primary focus is to empower adults in communities to address sex abuse and block access to vulnerable people. We provide printed and online awareness materials with messaging that is primarily adult prevention focused. Our trainings provide human service worker’s and community-based adults with very specific tools to identify vulnerable people to sexual abuse and how to block access from predatory individuals. Please check us out on Facebook and “like” us to stay in touch.

A very short training promo video for those who are interested…

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2013 is a year of change and we look forward to being a small part of the cultural shift to empowerement.

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Savenia Falquist-Dionne

savenia@silentspirits.info or 503-941-0467

 

 

Cultivating a Healthy Relationship

I was looking over the subject topics as I embark on this journey with The Survivor Manual, and this one popped out at me.  “Healthy Relationships”.  What is that?  Well, as a champion of unhealthy relationships in the past, and one who is working everyday to make my current relationship “healthy”, I had to think about what the word “healthy” means to me.   To be healthy, indicates that we are in balance physically and mentally. That we are taking care of ourselves.  As abuse survivors, this is not easy.  We were conditioned to believe that we didn’t matter, that we were here to be used, and abused for someone else’s pleasure.  This is a major untruth that sits in our psyche.  It rots away any positive thoughts, or energy that exists within us. It ruins our self esteem and self love.  In turn, it effects our relationships with others.   What if we could learn to change that self image — to change our thinking, and see ourselves as whole, happy, and beautiful? What if we could shine unconditional love upon ourselves?

The premise that we are here to love, be loved, and be needed, is true.  So, if we can start this process by loving someone else — while also knowing that they love and need us — it would help us incredibly.  I love my wife unconditionally.  She is not perfect…but she is to me.  Even with all of her flaws, she is perfect.  I can see that, and I tell her so.  She has told me that I am beautiful, and that I am perfect.  She loves me unconditionally.  I didn’t believe her, at first.  It has taken a long time for me to believe her.  But once I did, everything started to change.  Because that simple yet difficult thing, loving someone unconditionally — acknowledging yet accepting their flaws — means that you can also do it for yourself.  I always believed that a healthy relationship with another human being starts with a healthy relationship with yourself.  While, finding the most healthy version of ourselves, is the presumed goal, it may not be the starting point.  Someone who has been abused has to work through so much to get to the point of healing.  They have to cross many bridges and barriers to find their true selves.  A possible shortcut would be to really love and accept someone else first.  Of course recognizing someone whom encompasses these traits, would be a whole different topic in itself.  But truly, someone who loves you, warts and all —  they can shine a light on you like no one else can.

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We only have 12 days left to raise funds for “You and Me and the Fruit Trees.”

Millions of children are affected by this endemic and many adults struggle with the ongoing trauma of CSA. Child sexual abuse is a public health issue that impacts not only individuals, but whole communities and society at large. You can be an active part of the movement to end child sexual abuse by donating $15, $25, or $50 today. Click here to make your donation: http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees

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Gratitude and love,

Tracey Quezada
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