Film: Stories of healing and the movement to end child sexual abuse

Holidays are around the corner and buying presents for friends can be fun, but also nerve wracking. This holiday season our team is asking supporters to make a gift donation in the name of a family member or friend. Give the gift of awareness, prevention and healing surrounding child sexual abuse.
We are asking supporters to share our fundraising page with your network, friends, family, co-workers and educational institutions, etc. Simply send a donation in the name of a friend, family member or co-worker. We will send them a lovely card telling them about your gift. Click here to make a donation:http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=addr

You can also help by sharing your stories, thoughts or advicesurrounding child sexual abuse on our Facebook page at: http://www.facebook.com/pages/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees/221780444504995 This page was created for the community to share, exchange ideas and offer advice. 

Community has the power to make a difference. What does that mean? That means creating dialogue in your community and asking your friends and family to help. Here are 3 ways you can help:

1. Spread the work by using social media, twitter and Facebook. Ideas for post or tweets:
• Learn how you can be part of the movement to end child sexual abuse. Donate today: http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=addr
• 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18: http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=add

• Child sexual abuse and systems of oppression have an interdependent relationship. What are we missing? http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=add
• What does it say about our families, communities, and society to have cases of CSA reach endemic numbers?: http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=add
• Removing the stigma and moving forward:  http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=add

2. Donate to help complete the film. The information provided in the film should be readily available to the public. Each year 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused. Each year the current child welfare system fails these vulnerable children. Through each story shared and expert testimony, the film will provide a new model for effectively addressing CSA. We have also taken the model and incorporated it in our campaign strategy. You can help make this possible. Click here to make a donation: http://www.indiegogo.com/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees?a=24817&i=add

3. Request a screening in your community.

Pictured below is Angel (featured in the film) with her dog, sitting on a memorial bench dedicated to her dear friend. Read more about the film shoot this past Saturday below.

Film Update:

This past Saturday we had the honor to film Angel Cassidy Borst. We followed her and Linda, her close friend to McLaren Park in San Francisco. Angel visited the bench in memory of her dear friend Norma Hotaling and co-founder of SAGE, Standing Against Global Exploitation. She is pictured above with her dog Rowan. The film shoot was more than we could hope for.

Two weeks ago we filmed Aqueila and her mother. This is a challenge, as often family members distance themselves or are in complete denial. Aqueila’s mom was candid about the cycle of sexual abuse in the family and what she wish she could have done to help Aqueila. It was an emotional, compelling film shoot to say the least. We could not have filmed Aqueila and her mother or Angel if it was not for individual donations. Thank you for your support.

Warmly

Tracey Quezada
Producer, Director
www.traceyquezadaproductions.com

Changing the Filters You See and Hear Through

People see and hear things based on their own experiences.  Some of those who were victimized pull down a filter of fear through which they see the world as they continually tell an old story of pain.  Good therapies, healing techniques and self awareness help to lift the filters and enable people to see clearly.

I love going to the Agape Spiritual Center. I heard Rev. Michael Beckwith speak about this lifting the filters and changing the old stories and had to post it here. I recommend watching the whole video but if you want get straight to his talk, it’s about an hour in.

No matter what your faith or belief or non belief is, Reverend Michael’s message is a great reminder to expand your awareness.

If you have been through some kind of abuse or violence perpetrated by someone close to you, you may see men or women as dangerous and respond accordingly.  You may think that everyone is out to get you because you were betrayed once.  You may lash out at people who try to get close to you. You may get offended and lash out at people in your home and work place, thinking they have done you wrong. At the core of the original experience, these reactions make sense due to what happened to you but the reality is that it’s not happening right now.  It’s the old story being repeated over and over in your mind. A filter is pulled down, almost like putting on a pair of rose colored glasses and you may see things slanted towards being harmful to you when in fact it’s a new experience or even better, someone trying to help you.   It’s never too late to “change your mind.”

If you are a loved one of a survivor

I’m sure you have seen this played out many times when you have been attacked for trying to help. Many times survivors of trauma are not seeing the actual reality of what is happening, but instead they are seeing an old story replayed through a filter.  Many times victims feel a sense of importance and identity by replaying that story so they refuse to move forward, others may have Munchausen Syndrome or a Factitious Disorder.  No matter where the pain originated from, there are a lot of people going through it.  By expanding our awareness, survivors and their supporters can lead more fulfilled lives.

What a perfect time to lift the old filters, move on from the old stories and begin a new life.   What a great time to wake up!

This Holiday season remember to take time out for YOU

During the hustle and bustle of the Holiday season, we are programmed to find joy in doing for others.  It is equally important to reprogram ourselves to remember to take time out for YOU.  Please.  You deserve some time just for YOU, even if it’s only two minutes!

Enjoy this 2-minute Breathe Break designed to help YOU live a more joyful life:

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Remember, the Journey Is the Destination… and it’s FREE to Breathe!

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