National Child Abuse Prevention Day!

October is a big month for us! Producer/Director Tracey Quezada will be presenting the “Work in Progress” at the Humanist Hall on October 20th at 7:00pm. So come out and show your support. Our partner TAALK, will interview Tracey for part of a 24 hour internet radio show recognizing child abuse prevention day November 19th at 6:30pm. Click here to listen on November 19th : http://www.taalk.org/TAALK-A-THON2.
Kimlynh Engebretson-Chun, a local artist who is also in the film, will be hosting a benefit. Come out to MUA in Oakland November 4th, 8:00pm where Kimlynh will be donating 25% of her sales that night and for the month of November to the film. We were also recently featured in “Ella’s Voice”, a blog provided by the Ella Baker Center for Human Rights, check it out here: http://www.ellabakercenter.org/blog/2011/09/you-and-the-social-movement-to-end-child-sexual-abuse/ and highlighted in De-Bug, Silicon Valley, here is the link: http://www.siliconvalleydebug.org/articles/2011/10/12/you-me-and-fruit-trees#..
We are excited to share that we have an upcoming film shoot October 15th-we will be interviewing the mother of a woman in the film. This is a challenge, as often family members distance themselves from abuse or are in complete denial. We will share our upcoming film shoot with you in our next newsletter.

Finally, we are gearing up for National Child Abuse Prevention Day, November 19th! You can help by sharing your stories, thoughts or advice surrounding child sexual abuse on our Facebook page at: http://www.facebook.com/pages/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees/221780444504995 This page was created for the community to share, exchange ideas and offer advice. 

Community has the power to make a difference. With mutual support we can remove the stigma, help to prevent and heal from the ongoing trauma of child sexual abuse. 
What does that mean? That means creating dialogue in your community and asking your friends and family to help. You have the power to bring awareness around child sexual abuse, by promoting the work being done. Here are 3 ways you can help:

1. Spread the work by using social media, twitter and Facebook. Ideas for post or tweets:

* Learn how you can be part of the movement to end child sexual abuse. Donate today: http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18:  http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* Child sexual abuse and systems of oppression have an interdependent relationship. What are we missing? http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* What does it say about our families, communities, and society to have cases of CSA reach endemic numbers?: http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* Removing the stigma and moving forward:   http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43

2. Donate to help complete the film. The information provided in the film should be readily available to the public. Each year 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused. Each year the current child welfare system fails these vulnerable children. Through each story shared and expert testimony, the film will provide a new model for effectively addressing CSA. We have also taken the model and incorporated it in our campaign strategy. You can help make this possible. Click here to make a donation: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_donations&business=829AAVMB8RYPA&lc=US&currency_code=USD&bn=PP%2dDonationsBF%3abtn_donateCC_LG%2egif%3aNonHosted

3. Request a screening in your community.

Warmly,

Tracey Quezada

Producer, Director

http://twitter.com/#!/traceyquezada

http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43

“Imagine a disease that affects one in three girls and one in seven boys* before they reach 18; a disease that can cause severe misconduct disorders among those exposed…can have profound implications for…future health by increasing the risk of problems such as substance abuse, sexually transmitted diseases and suicidal behavior; a disease that replicates itself by causing some of its victims to expose future generations…Imagine what we… would do… We would spare no expense. We would invest…in research. We would …identify those affected and…treat them. We would…broadly implement prevention campaigns to protect our children. Wouldn’t we? Such a disease does exist—it’s called child sexual abuse.”
James Mercy, M.D., Centers for Disease Control, 1999 *conservative stats based on reported cases of child sexual abuse.

This Holiday season remember to take time out for YOU

During the hustle and bustle of the Holiday season, we are programmed to find joy in doing for others.  It is equally important to reprogram ourselves to remember to take time out for YOU.  Please.  You deserve some time just for YOU, even if it’s only two minutes!

Enjoy this 2-minute Breathe Break designed to help YOU live a more joyful life:

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Remember, the Journey Is the Destination… and it’s FREE to Breathe!

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Review of “A Private Family Matter”

A Private Family Matter by Victor Rivas Rivers

How does a child survive his boyhood with a father who delivers endless emotional, verbal, and physical torture?

This is what the reader learns from Victor Rivas. Born in Cuba, his family immigrated to America before Castro’s rule. Yet Victor did not escape the sadistic dictatorship of his own father. The torture that the father inflicted upon his family is difficult for a reader to process, yet it brings awareness to the tough topic of domestic violence.

The reader learns of a frustrating social system that denied resources to the most vulnerable victims: women and children. When Victor’s mother visited a police station to tell of the abuse she was experiencing, she was told that there was nothing they could do. They told her to call the next time he was beating her! When Victor ran to the police station to show his bruised pubescent body to the officers, they told him there was nothing they could do because it was “a private family matter.”

Victor’s father ruined everything, and stole his son’s right to self-determination. After witnessing abuse upon his mother, his brothers, and his pets, as well as enduring the vicious assaults from his father, Victor ran away from his house-of-horrors. He was safer sleeping in a cemetery. Naturally, he became a hostile, hopeless adolescent.

Victor was rescued by seven families, teachers, and coaches. He spent the last years of high school learning to give and receive love. He became an athlete, actor, and advocate.

A review of 300-400 words cannot possibly convey the poignancy of this story. It is well-written, with a sprinkling of enjoyable observations, such as an anecdote about acclimatizing to Miami in August, and the bug life “spawned by the moisture.” Victor Rivas Rivers also shares his survival lessons as he pushes through his tough assignment.

As an author of a memoir with the same topics, I can identify with the ironic twists and turns of the home-site battlefield, as well as the universal themes of triumph over tragedy. As an advocate, I would recommend this book as “a must read” for breaking the silence and cycles of violence and challenging society to promote peace in our homes.

Review by Lynn C. Tolson, author of Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story