Self – Help Apps

Designed by Kay Toon who jointly authored the Breaking Free series of books

http://www.kaytoon.co.uk/pages/books.htm

She has now created a series of Breaking Free Apps to support survivors …

http://www.kaytoon.co.uk/pages/apps.htm

(please cascade to appropriate networks)

Patrick Stewart Addresses Violence Against Women: The Internet Applauds

In March of 2013 I was able to briefly meet Sir Patrick Stewart at the Orlando Megacon, a comic/fantasy festival where the cast of Star Trek the Next Generation was reuniting for a panel discussion.  As we stood for a picture I looked at him and said “I just want to say thank you for all the work you do to raise awareness about violence against women.”  Mr. Stewart paused, grabbed my arm and said “Thank you.  I do that for my mother.”

This past week, at Comicpalooza in Texas, Heather Skye, a Trekkie, was lucky enough to get to ask Mr. Stewart a question at his panel discussion, a question that was recorded by an audience member and put on YouTube.  During her time she thanked him for his work with Amnesty International, for which Mr. Stewart did a photo and video campaign aimed at ending violence against women.  Ms. Skye also mentioned that she was going through a similar situation to Mr. Stewart’s mother who had suffered years of abuse at the hands of her husband.  At the time Alfred Stewart (a returning WWI soldier) probably suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder, or ‘”shell shock,” but lack of treatment resulted in violent behavior.  For her question, Ms. Skye asked Mr. Stewart if he could talk about what work (aside from acting) he is the most proud of. patrickstewartsign

Mr. Stewart then delivered an impassioned speech, mentioning that his work with an English organization called Refuge, which focuses on helping women and children who are victims of domestic violence, is the work he is most proud of.  He explained that no woman deserves to be abused and no man should believe that a woman is ever deserving of abuse.   Raising his arms above his head, Mr. Steward shouted that, even if a woman does something to provoke a man, he should never act violently toward her because “violence is never the answer.”

As this video went viral, more people started to comment on and address another significant part of his answer.  Mr. Stewart made sure to point out that the lack of treatment his father received for PTSD was what contributed to his violence and that what is often forgotten in cases of domestic violence are the ways to treat people who batter and abuse.  Mr. Stewart also mentioned that it is men who need to take responsibility for violence against women, that men will be the ones to stop abuse.  This is also often looked over when violence against women is addressed.  Even though there are national programs like Men can Stop Rape, one area that activists will say continues to need work is the outreach with men.

As someone who has studied violence against women, wrote about healing after violence and worked with survivors of sexual and physical violence I know that is (unfortunately) very rare for a man to address this as a problem for men to solve.  Grasping this concept requires a cultural shift, a change in how we think about violence against women and a movement away from victim blaming.  By acknowledging that violence against women affects everyone, Mr. Stewart pushed open a door to lead a call for dialogue on what everyone should be doing to bring about change.

So, thank you Patrick Stewart.  Thank you for this message, thank you for using your celebrity in this way.  And thank you Heather Skye for asking the question that brought about this amazing response.  I imagine it helped change a few minds and will bring much needed attention to this issue.

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Adrienne Trier-Bieniek, PhD is a sociology professor at Valencia College in Orlando.  She has written about healing from violence for various websites as well as in her book “Sing Us a Song, Piano Woman: Female Fans and the Music of Tori Amos.” www.adriennetrier-bieniek.com

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