End CSA NOW! EVENT – Save the Date

Join us in bringing awareness, prevention, and dialogue
to end child sexual abuse.

End Child Sexual Abuse NOW!

Saturday, April 19, 1:30 – 4:30pm
Oakland Asian Cultural Center
388 9th Street, Oakland

As many of you know myself and 8 community members have been working to create an event that emphasizes the importance of community involvement to end child sexual abuse (CSA) and increase visibility of those impacted by it.

Please SAVE THE DATE. This event will include:

  • Discussions about current efforts being made to address CSA;
  • Community forum to bring voice to those impacted by CSA;
  • Special film screening of preliminary footage from You Me and the Fruit Trees;
  • Resources and information sharing;
  • Healing arts activity;
  • Most importantly, we want to bring visibility to this largely shrouded issue by leading a community march to the local city hall as a call to action!

Parts of the event will be filmed for the documentary my team and I are currently producing. It’s a character driven film that follows several survivors of CSA and includes leaders in the movement to end child sexual abuse as well as other community members impacted by CSA. For more information on this documentary please visit: Trailer

We are also thrilled and honored to share that the City of Berkeley unanimously passed our proclamation to recognize “End Child Sexual Abuse NOW!” as a day in Berkeley. We have a whole lot to celebrate and hope you can be there April 19th to celebrate with us!

Please share this invitation with your networks through social media, tweet it, post it and forward this post to your friends, co-workers and family.  Invite your friends on Facebook here:  End CSA EVENT

Stay tune for a list of speakers and more details.

Together we can end CSA!

Tracey Quezada –info@traceyquezadaproductions.com
Danielle Castro – Danielle.castro@ucsf.edu

National Child Abuse Prevention Day!

October is a big month for us! Producer/Director Tracey Quezada will be presenting the “Work in Progress” at the Humanist Hall on October 20th at 7:00pm. So come out and show your support. Our partner TAALK, will interview Tracey for part of a 24 hour internet radio show recognizing child abuse prevention day November 19th at 6:30pm. Click here to listen on November 19th : http://www.taalk.org/TAALK-A-THON2.
Kimlynh Engebretson-Chun, a local artist who is also in the film, will be hosting a benefit. Come out to MUA in Oakland November 4th, 8:00pm where Kimlynh will be donating 25% of her sales that night and for the month of November to the film. We were also recently featured in “Ella’s Voice”, a blog provided by the Ella Baker Center for Human Rights, check it out here: http://www.ellabakercenter.org/blog/2011/09/you-and-the-social-movement-to-end-child-sexual-abuse/ and highlighted in De-Bug, Silicon Valley, here is the link: http://www.siliconvalleydebug.org/articles/2011/10/12/you-me-and-fruit-trees#..
We are excited to share that we have an upcoming film shoot October 15th-we will be interviewing the mother of a woman in the film. This is a challenge, as often family members distance themselves from abuse or are in complete denial. We will share our upcoming film shoot with you in our next newsletter.

Finally, we are gearing up for National Child Abuse Prevention Day, November 19th! You can help by sharing your stories, thoughts or advice surrounding child sexual abuse on our Facebook page at: http://www.facebook.com/pages/You-and-Me-and-the-Fruit-Trees/221780444504995 This page was created for the community to share, exchange ideas and offer advice. 

Community has the power to make a difference. With mutual support we can remove the stigma, help to prevent and heal from the ongoing trauma of child sexual abuse. 
What does that mean? That means creating dialogue in your community and asking your friends and family to help. You have the power to bring awareness around child sexual abuse, by promoting the work being done. Here are 3 ways you can help:

1. Spread the work by using social media, twitter and Facebook. Ideas for post or tweets:

* Learn how you can be part of the movement to end child sexual abuse. Donate today: http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18:  http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* Child sexual abuse and systems of oppression have an interdependent relationship. What are we missing? http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* What does it say about our families, communities, and society to have cases of CSA reach endemic numbers?: http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43
* Removing the stigma and moving forward:   http://www.youandmeandthefruittrees.com/?page_id=43

2. Donate to help complete the film. The information provided in the film should be readily available to the public. Each year 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused. Each year the current child welfare system fails these vulnerable children. Through each story shared and expert testimony, the film will provide a new model for effectively addressing CSA. We have also taken the model and incorporated it in our campaign strategy. You can help make this possible. Click here to make a donation: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_donations&business=829AAVMB8RYPA&lc=US&currency_code=USD&bn=PP%2dDonationsBF%3abtn_donateCC_LG%2egif%3aNonHosted

3. Request a screening in your community.


Tracey Quezada

Producer, Director



“Imagine a disease that affects one in three girls and one in seven boys* before they reach 18; a disease that can cause severe misconduct disorders among those exposed…can have profound implications for…future health by increasing the risk of problems such as substance abuse, sexually transmitted diseases and suicidal behavior; a disease that replicates itself by causing some of its victims to expose future generations…Imagine what we… would do… We would spare no expense. We would invest…in research. We would …identify those affected and…treat them. We would…broadly implement prevention campaigns to protect our children. Wouldn’t we? Such a disease does exist—it’s called child sexual abuse.”
James Mercy, M.D., Centers for Disease Control, 1999 *conservative stats based on reported cases of child sexual abuse.

Lessons from Last Year

2010 is over and 2011 is just beginning. To be completely honest, I am excited for the new year and couldn’t be happier that this last year is over. It was a difficult year for me however just like other difficult times, I did learn alot about myself and about others.  I feel like I have grown emotionally and spiritually.  I have been connected with so many people that I might not have ever met, if I had not been tested to my personal limits.  So here are some of the things that I personally learned this last year: 

No matter how strong of a person I am or you are, we all need to depend on each other and reach out to others.  Now this one is particularly hard for me because I have held on to this delusion that I can handle things on my own.  That I don’t need anyone’s help because all others are going to do is let you down.  Now I am not saying that doesn’t hold true in some instances however if you are lucky enough to have a hand full of angels in your life, sometimes that’s all you need to get by. 

If I am open to life’s lessons, then these difficult times are the times that I grow the most.  Over the years, I have had some difficulties and just like all of us, I have suffered several losses, dealt with stress and a variety of different traumas.  When things in my life are going smoothly, I feel happy however notice that I don’t do as much WORK as when things are bumpy.  I am a very curious and introspective person, and am always seeking answers and knowledge about myself and about the world around me.  When I am down and out, I question myself and my higher powers about what I am to learn from this situation.  How can I come up and out of this destruction all around me?  How do I need to nurture myself and ask for what I need from others in order to be the phoenix rising out of the ashes?  If I can find out what I need during these difficult times and what I need from others, then I can overcome this situation and it might help prepare me for other situations I have yet to face. 

This too will pass.  I have to continue to remind myself that this is not permanent.  And if I am not feeling good, physically and/or emotionally, I am comforted by the fact that this is going to pass.  Just like when we cut our finger, it hurts, however it also heals.  My heart has healed from situations that have happened in my past however that also does not mean that things will not pop up unexpectedly that I will have to readdress.  But again this is temporary, in the large scheme of things; it is only a moment in time.  This is also why when things are going good, we need to rejoice and cherish those moments because unfortunately those times will pass as well. It’s funny because I used to take comfort in consistency and wanted things to stay the same.  I still find that I get like that sometimes, I like knowing what is coming next and what I have to do.  But the more that I realize that change is constant then I can learn how to go with the flow. 

That is something that I look forward to this year is just to let go of so much of the responsibilities that I hold myself to and just have more fun! I want to rejoice and enjoy the life that I have created for myself and I encourage each one of you to do the same.  If you feel like your life is not what you would like it to be, then do what you can to create the life that you want.  You have the power to do it; you just have to trust in yourself and have the courage to begin the process.  It is a new year and anything is possible! Just Believe…