Self – Help Apps

Designed by Kay Toon who jointly authored the Breaking Free series of books

http://www.kaytoon.co.uk/pages/books.htm

She has now created a series of Breaking Free Apps to support survivors …

http://www.kaytoon.co.uk/pages/apps.htm

(please cascade to appropriate networks)

Trafficking Survivor’s Film Launches UK Campaign

In a world where the trafficking of humans has become the second-largest criminal industry after drug dealing, a child-trafficking survivor launches a campaign for social change, with the screening of her powerfully moving, autobiographical film on 9 April in London.

Raven Kaliana with PuppetsHooray for Hollywood, a film for adult audiences, written and directed by Raven Kaliana, artist, human rights activist, and survivor, utilises puppetry to highlight the intersection of trafficking and familial abuse with organised crime, shown from a child’s point of view. A Talkback Panel discussion, facilitated by Anita Amendra (Project Manager, Sustainable Communities Programme, Initiatives of Change) will follow the film, featuring: Raven Kaliana (Outspiral), Adam Weiss (The AIRE Centre – Advice on Individual Rights in Europe), and Esther Davidson (OXCAT – Oxford Community Against Trafficking).

Kaliana states: ‘It’s my goal to humanize this issue – bring it into public discourse, so that it’s not taboo to talk about this crime… So that the perpetrators, however monstrous their actions, become in the mind’s eye only human… So that the children, however anonymised by the medium of their abuse, become living people with faces, names, families. We can begin to view this as a social problem that people who are also ‘only human’ can address. It is by caring that you unlock the door.’

Trafficking is modern day slavery, with children and adults held captive and sexually exploited in the UK and world-wide. Increased public awareness can help prevent children and vulnerable adults from falling victim and help survivors to safety. Lydia Cacho, international authority on trafficking, states: ‘The global sex industry has HoorayForHollywood-FilmStill(c)2011RavenKaliana,camera by GordonAnderson3-hirescreated a market for sex slaves that may soon outnumber the African slaves sold from the 1500s to the 1800s…The means to fight this crime lie in the hands of the world’s citizens.’

Kaliana established Outspiral in 2011, an organisation which employs puppet-based film and theatre productions for adults, combined with training, to raise public awareness in efforts to prevent the crimes of human trafficking and child sexual exploitation.

Initiatives of Change, Sustainable Communities Programme in collaboration with Outspiral presents Hooray for Hollywood as the first in a series of awareness-raising and skills-building events to build stronger communication between agencies, foster understanding of the effects of trauma, address legal enforcement issues, and enlist members and leaders of spiritual communities to take a proactive approach to protecting children and trafficked adults.

The Sustainable Communities Programme supports, promotes and works with community projects like Outspiral. Currently, the Programme provides practical advice and assistance to a range of community-based organisations, many of which engage in the arts or provide trainings working towards community cohesion, justice and protection of vulnerable people in the UK.

The event will take place at the Initiatives of Change Centre in London at 24 Greencoat Place, Victoria, London SW1P 1RD from 18:00-20:00 on Tuesday 9th April 2013.  Entry is free, but booking is essential – RSVP to reception@london.iofc.org or call 020 7798 6000.

 

Gain Empowerment Through Self-Healing

Today I’m sharing a Guest Post by Eve Pearce who wanted to share a healing article on Survivor Manual.

Gain Empowerment Through Self-Healing

By Eve Pearce

Healing oneself is a gradual process; it is a long and winding road, down which we take tiny steps. Healing steps toward happiness and self-fulfilment. You have to remember that healing comes to us all at different rates, and by healing ourselves, we are gaining empowerment. It is not a race to the finish line, it’s a stroll through life that we all take at a different pace. You are unique, and your healing process is your own. You will learn to move on. There are some steps and exercises, however, which can help you down your road.

Forgive

Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened to you was okay. It isn’t absolving someone of their abusive behaviour. It is letting go of your pain or your anger and saying: you cannot control me any more, you cannot hurt me any more, and you are not going to effect my life and happiness. Forgiveness is a tool which you can utilise to move on. It may not come overnight, or even this week, this month, or this year, but keep on trying and eventually you will forgive, and drop this person from your life forever. Destructive people are not worth your thought or mental energy. There is no explaining their actions, so in the end you just have to accept what happened and allow yourself to continue down your road. You have all the power here.

Drop Harmful Behaviours

Survivors of abuse and trauma are more likely to engage in actions or behaviours which they feel might help dull their mental pain or anguish. It follows, however, that these behaviours can often be harmful or destructive. Drug use or excessive drinking of alcohol might seem like they help, but this is only a short-term fix and, not only will it not help your mental state or aid it your healing, it can also be extremely damaging for the body and for your physical health. So, get yourself clean and substance-free, seeking professional help where necessary. Engage in positive behaviours and activities to help with your pain, such as art therapy, music or writing. Being creative is a great way to aid yourself down your road to healing, because it can help you to address your pain in a useful way. You will learn that good things can be born from pain and trauma, not just sadness or hate.

Learn to Trust

Learning to trust again can be hard. How can someone who has been abused, especially by someone who claimed to love or care for them, ever really believe in someone else again? You have to remember that, although there are bad people in this world, there are a lot of good and kind ones, too. You have to trust in the ultimate goodness of humanity. That is not to say that you should trust without reason. People in your life should have to earn your trust, and if you ever feel wary about an individual’s motives or intentions, then trust yourself. Learn to believe in your own instincts, they may be stronger than you give them credit for. But all in all, you should open up your life to people, and allow them to share in your experiences.

Love Yourself

As a survivor of abuse or trauma, it is sometimes difficult to see yourself for the beautiful and strong person that you are. If you have been told negative things about yourself again and again, it can be a challenge to accept that there are endless positive and wonderful aspects of yourself that make you who you are. If you start to feel bad about yourself, remember that those thoughts are a result of another person’s disordered way of thinking, and are not really about you. Tell yourself that you are an amazing individual. Think about the things you do like about yourself and work from there. You will soon learn to love yourself, which will, in turn, help you to heal.

This is your road. Never forget that you are the most powerful person in your life, because you are responsible for your own healing, and you will succeed. There may be the occasional setback or bump in the road, but you have all the tools and will enough to keep on moving.

Guest Post by Eve Pearce who wanted to share a healing article on Survivor Manual.