Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept

Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept is a beautifully illustrated picture book that sensitively broaches the subject of keeping our children safe from sexual interference.

We teach water safety and road safety but how do we teach ‘body safety’ to young children in a way that is neither frightening nor confronting?

This book is an invaluable tool for parents, carergivers, teachers and health professionals. The parenting notes and discussion questions at the back of the book are an excellent support guide when talking with children about the story.

Suitable for ages 3 to 12 years.

The book is now available on Amazon.

The supportive teacher’s pack and many other free links and resources are available at: www.somesecrets.info

Healing Technique for PTSD

Dr Muss, Director PTSD Unit, BMI Hospital, Birmingham UK offers free The Rewind Technique which will permanently stop the distressing images,nightmares and flashbacks.

Healing from PTSD

After doing the Rewind check how you are in a week.

Watch the video HERE!

It is the most effective, enduring and fastest help ever!

DR. DAVID MUSS Director PTSD Unit Birmingham UK
Founder of the association for rewind trauma therapy www.artt.org.uk

Gain Empowerment Through Self-Healing

Today I’m sharing a Guest Post by Eve Pearce who wanted to share a healing article on Survivor Manual.

Gain Empowerment Through Self-Healing

By Eve Pearce

Healing oneself is a gradual process; it is a long and winding road, down which we take tiny steps. Healing steps toward happiness and self-fulfilment. You have to remember that healing comes to us all at different rates, and by healing ourselves, we are gaining empowerment. It is not a race to the finish line, it’s a stroll through life that we all take at a different pace. You are unique, and your healing process is your own. You will learn to move on. There are some steps and exercises, however, which can help you down your road.

Forgive

Forgiveness isn’t saying that what happened to you was okay. It isn’t absolving someone of their abusive behaviour. It is letting go of your pain or your anger and saying: you cannot control me any more, you cannot hurt me any more, and you are not going to effect my life and happiness. Forgiveness is a tool which you can utilise to move on. It may not come overnight, or even this week, this month, or this year, but keep on trying and eventually you will forgive, and drop this person from your life forever. Destructive people are not worth your thought or mental energy. There is no explaining their actions, so in the end you just have to accept what happened and allow yourself to continue down your road. You have all the power here.

Drop Harmful Behaviours

Survivors of abuse and trauma are more likely to engage in actions or behaviours which they feel might help dull their mental pain or anguish. It follows, however, that these behaviours can often be harmful or destructive. Drug use or excessive drinking of alcohol might seem like they help, but this is only a short-term fix and, not only will it not help your mental state or aid it your healing, it can also be extremely damaging for the body and for your physical health. So, get yourself clean and substance-free, seeking professional help where necessary. Engage in positive behaviours and activities to help with your pain, such as art therapy, music or writing. Being creative is a great way to aid yourself down your road to healing, because it can help you to address your pain in a useful way. You will learn that good things can be born from pain and trauma, not just sadness or hate.

Learn to Trust

Learning to trust again can be hard. How can someone who has been abused, especially by someone who claimed to love or care for them, ever really believe in someone else again? You have to remember that, although there are bad people in this world, there are a lot of good and kind ones, too. You have to trust in the ultimate goodness of humanity. That is not to say that you should trust without reason. People in your life should have to earn your trust, and if you ever feel wary about an individual’s motives or intentions, then trust yourself. Learn to believe in your own instincts, they may be stronger than you give them credit for. But all in all, you should open up your life to people, and allow them to share in your experiences.

Love Yourself

As a survivor of abuse or trauma, it is sometimes difficult to see yourself for the beautiful and strong person that you are. If you have been told negative things about yourself again and again, it can be a challenge to accept that there are endless positive and wonderful aspects of yourself that make you who you are. If you start to feel bad about yourself, remember that those thoughts are a result of another person’s disordered way of thinking, and are not really about you. Tell yourself that you are an amazing individual. Think about the things you do like about yourself and work from there. You will soon learn to love yourself, which will, in turn, help you to heal.

This is your road. Never forget that you are the most powerful person in your life, because you are responsible for your own healing, and you will succeed. There may be the occasional setback or bump in the road, but you have all the tools and will enough to keep on moving.

Guest Post by Eve Pearce who wanted to share a healing article on Survivor Manual.