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How I Learned to Love Myself ~ Guest post for Dr. Kathleen Young

by DarleneOuimet on May 3, 2010

in Darkness to Light

This week I had the honour of being the first person to be a guest blogger on the amazing trauma blog, “Dr. Kathleen Young ~ Treating Trauma in Chicago” who is also a contributor to this site. Since I have been a fan of her blog for a long while now, I was thrilled and more than a little excited, when Dr. Young asked me if I would like to write a guest post for her on the subject of how I learned to love myself.

As a victim of childhood sexual abuse I developed Dissociated Identity Disorder and struggled with depression for much of my life. In my early forties, married with 3 school age children I found myself once again at an all time low and wondering what the heck life was all about, and what was the point. It wasn’t the first time I wanted to give up, but it was the first time I wanted to give up as a mother. I had decided to leave my family.

The combination of finding a great therapist and my complete willingness to get to the bottom of all my issues and work my butt off to restore my mental health, proved to be successful and along the journey I realized an extreme passion for articulating HOW I became healthy and whole again and I spend my days writing, speaking and advocating for recovery and wholeness by describing just how I found my truth and overcame abuse, DID and depression. I talk about what worked for me. I shine the light on what was at the core of my belief system that kept me living with a victim mindset.

In this post “How I learned to love myself~the beauty in the broken“,  for Dr. Kathleen Young, I write about how I learned to love myself. I hope you enjoy reading this small part of my story of healing and how I learned self love.

From Surviving to Thriving!

Darlene Ouimet

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  • ladyjtalks

    I loved your article. Thousand that have crossed our sites these many years have echoed what I said when I found the internet and others like myself. “We are not alone anymore”. As many did I had to learn pretty much one book at a time as others started to share their stories. “Healing the child within” meant healing a bunch of children within. My “courage to heal” came from having no where else to turn. And Yes, for many of us, it was having our children that not only promted us to need help, also gave us a reason to learning and changing our lives. My little saying that pretty much every therapist I've ever seen as gotten from me was “I never wanted My life to end, I wanted My life 'as it was' to end” and any thing that would help in that end was the direction I turned. Here I am now with a whole lot of better things to think about and do. Doesn't make life a soft and fuzzy all the time. I still sleep on a bed of roses right now, yet what I have learned is put down 3 inches of soft memory foam (litterally and figuratively) so that I get what I need in that position. Thanks for being out here and sharing with us.

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